Hi CAthy - welcome to the forum.
It's good that you're in remission, and I send my sympathies on the loss of your Dad. It sounds like you've had a lot going on recently, with your house move, and now changing consultants - it's a lot to come to terms with, and it's totally understandable that you have lots of questions.
My understanding of remission is that it's not the same as a cure. I am in remission but only because I take MTX and HDX. My understanding is that if the DMARDS are stopped then the symptoms of the RA will recur, and there will be all the pain, inflammation, swelling, increased risk of joint damage and fatigue - just like before treatment started. So, yes, your are right to want to know why the consultant is suggesting stopping your meds. Naomi has some good advice about living with RA and lupus and I understand that it is tricky to balance the meds needed for both diseases - all the more reason for the consultant to provide you with appropriate information.
You might try keeping a journal of your symptoms and take that along with your list of questions - and aim to get answers to them all before you leave the consulting room. It is reasonable for the doc to provide you with written information for any major changes to your meds - booklet or reputable web link - so you can take time to consider the information and make an informed decision. Bear in mind that you are the most important person in your care plan - the health professionals advise but you live with the consequences every day, so you have a right to understand as much as possible, so you are all able to make a joint decision about the best way forward for you.
I wish you well, and do please let us know how it goes. Not everybody on the forum follows Health Unlocked, and it would be great to hear of your experiences in this. With very best wishes - Sylvia
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